Surviving miserable times

BRINGING IN RELIEF

We all long for those few moments of peace in our turbulent lives. In harsh times and on stormy days, we all look for shelter and security everywhere. The uncertainity of life scares us and we are unable to see the path ahead due to the thick fog of fear hovering in our heads. Relief is what we need. Relief is what can calm our anxious minds. We all long to be relieved of this misery.

TO SERVE WITH LOVE

In such times, service is the only thing which can relieve us of our pain. If you feel powerless and cannot do anything for yourself, then go and help those in need. Serve your fellow beings with love. Be it a loving comment on someone’s social media post, a heartfelt message to a distant friend or sending a beautiful greeting card to someone you love, these are all acts of service. These acts can range from a warm hug to even financial aid.

RELEASING ALL YOUR WISHES

We all have our own list of beautiful wishes and we desperately want them to come true. But wishes do remain unfulfilled either because they werent for the highest good of all or they are going to come true in an even better way. Offer all your wishes to the divine will and embrace all that comes up for you. Remaining tied to your wishes causes nothing but pain and grief. Release this and embrace all that comes up, be it good or miserable.

HOPE AS YOUR TORCHLIGHT

In these miserable times, we all hope for a better tomorrow. We all hope for miracles. We all hope for peace and prosperity. And very often we feel that our hopes have been crushed. Using hope as your torchlight means to hope for a better understanding of divine will, to hope for a clearer understanding of your life lessons and to hope for more strength and faith in the divine.aromatherapy-bloom-blossom-355722

Dealing with Broken Friendships

FRIENDS ARE REALLY OUR MOST PRECIOUS GIFTS

A friendship is really special. It supports us in those times when we have no one by our side. It gives us those moments of happiness and laughter which we can cherish all our life. No matter what the fate of your friendship is, it is still a beautiful gift.

WHY DIDNT IT WORK OUT?

I remember how my beautiful friendship broke because it was based on each of us constantly wanting something from each other. Our wants crush our beautiful bonds. I have learned that the more you are willing to serve and give, the stronger and better your friendship is.

DONT MAKE IT BITTER

Just stop this blame game now. Blaming the other person will do you no good. The judgements you have placed upon them are ultimately reflecting your own unhealed self back to you. Release all judgements. Show up for these painful moments with love. Embrace it as the divine will and let go of them with love.

ALLOW YOURSELF THE TIME YOU NEED TO HEAL

Letting go isnt an instant process. There will be days when you just feel so low that you cant get any work done. There are even those days when you sit and listen to all the friendship songs thinking of them. Thats all right. You need time. Take it and embrace all your wounds. Learn from your bittersweet experiences and slowly release all pain.

COMPASSION AS YOUR MAGIC WAND

Allow yourself to receive divine help as you heal. Be willing to see them in light. Be willing to share their sorrows and sufferings. Bring in kindness to this situation. Whatever they did to you, it may not be right. They may have hurt you. But now its time to be close-up-colors-cookie-898325kind to yourself. Its time to love yourself fully and ask the divine to help you. Keep them in your prayers and slowly in the eternal flame of kindness, you shall see their wounds too. Bless them and release them on their path.

ITS NOT OVER TILL ITS REALLY OVER

Surrender your friendship to God. Do not pray for them to come back. Instead, pray for their well being and send them love. Pray for the highest good of all. Embrace the healing process and slowly you will start seeing the beauty of friendships. Maybe they wont ever come back or maybe they will but dont keep yourself tied to it. Love is liberation. Release all attachments and pray for them with love. Be grateful for having them in your life and let go with love.

How to continue working when you are in distress

HOW TO WORK WHEN NOTHING FEELS GOOD?

There are times in our lives when we feel stressed and upset to the extent that it becomes impossible to work. We feel our fears overpowering us and we just cant focus on the work at hand.

This is where the principle of detachment comes into play. But before that lets understand what faith is. Faith is embracing all your hardships as the will of the divine. Faith is showing up for life no matter how you feel. Faith is doing your karma in accordance with your soul’s calling trusting what is about to come. Faith is serving with love blelieving that this is what you need to do.

Detachment is simply letting go of the outcome. It is the art of selfless service and the contentment of embracing the divine will.

SET UP A REGULAR PRAYER SERVICE OR A GROUNDING RITUAL

Praying is simply a means of offering all your troubles to the divine. Pray for the highest good of your soul. Pray for the highest good of all. You can compose your own prayers and sing them. You can also pray silently and groung yourself by coming in contact with mother earth and surrendering all your troubles to her.

FOLLOW THE BREADCRUMBS

When you are unable to see the entire picture, just follow the signs set up by the universe. It can be a small quote you come across or an intense rush of emotions. It can be a facebook post or some random pick a card reading on youtube. Just go on following theseblur-business-candy-330990 angelic signs.

SPEND SOME HYGGE MOMENTS

Relax and read a few pages of your favourite book. Listen to some soothing interviews by wellness experts and life coaches. Listen to sacred songs and recite them along. Write down encouraging letters to yourself. Read the blog posts about new stuff like Moonology, Manifesting, Forgiveness and gratitude, soul detox, finances or home decor.

YOU WILL HAVE SOME OFF DAYS

Yes, there will be days when you just cant get anything done. Thats all right. Sit down and listen to some good interviews by hayhouse or read a nice book. Just give up the fight and let it be. Tune into your intuition and trust the guidance.

SUPPORT AND HELP

Join at least one wellness community on facebook. Participate in group discussions. Leave loving comments for your group members. These discussions will keep you up and going on your off days. Its a healthy interactive environment where you can gain love and support.

 

 

Living a not-so-good life? Read this.

So, I am currently writing my fiction story “RAPUNZEL AND HER MOONLIGHT” at oyewiki.com

As I write the story further, I come across the bitter truth of self esteem and freedom being linked with money. If you are earning enough, you get to live the way you love. But if you are financially broke, then all you get is forced choices and harsh judgements. This post is a heart to heart conversation with all my readers going through similar stuff in their lives. And here is the link if you would like to read the beautiful story. I am sure it will touch your heart too.

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LESSONS AND GUIDANCE

Being in such a phase in life is not an easy job. Its a new battle each day and no day goes without the fear of losing it all. But in these difficult and painful times, you learn the art of forgiveness and compassion. This is a perfect time to release all judgements and bring kindness to all situations. In my life, as I go through this time, I have learnt to heal my anger with compassion, I am learning to be kind to myself, I am learning to surrender and embrace the divine will and I am learning the divine art of detachment.

LISTENING TO THE DIVINE WHISPERS

I often put on some sacred songs, close my eyes and let the divine speak. The whispers I hear are my only source of hope and guidance. In this tough time, if anyone is kind to me, its the Gods and the Goddesses. They listen to me with love and the more I pray, the better I feel.

SURRENDER YOUR DREAMS

  • Every dream that you believe in must be surrendered to the divine will. Let it be moulded and woven according to the divine plan. This also helps us in releasing all attachments to our dreams. In thbloom-blossom-cherry-blossom-54630is state of detachment, we then learn the art of selfless service.

LET YOUR KARMA DECIDE FOR YOU

In these times, its really hard to take any decisions. The fear and worry in our head just dont let us decide. So the simplest solution is to do your karma in a way that it becomes an act of selfless service. Service brings in peace and liberation. Serve with love and let your good deeds pave the path for you.

Overcoming TV show addictions

Do you feel the constant urge to watch your favourite show even when you dont have time for it? Do you feel overwhelmed and worried when you miss an epidode? Yes, most of us do feel this way. Being hooked to your favourite show is not an uncommon thing. But lets just pause and discuss a few things about this. This is just a heart to heart talk.

CRAVING IS NOT A SIGN OF HAVING FUN

We all love watching our favourite shows on television. How lovely it is to turn on the television and enjoy our favourite shows.

When I was a kid, things used to be really simple. You got to watch your favourite cartoons or kids shows only at a particular time. I still remember jotting down the dates and timings for my favourite animated movies especially the  one named “Scooby doo and the ghoul school.” My friend and I marked the date in our calendar and arranged all things accordingly.

But these days, we have online platforms where you can watch a single episode as many times as apartment-architecture-bedroom-892618you want. That maybe good but then there are those times when we watch a single episode over and over again or go on to watch the entire series several times. There is this constant craving and want for more which no longer is enjoyable. Its time consuming and draining.

MIND FULL OF RACING THOUGHTS 

Sometimes, we love the show so much that all we can think of is the fictional world we wish to be a part of. Focussing on work becomes almost impossible and waiting for new episodes feels like dreading the weekends. What was supposesd to be a source of fun soon becomes a source of necessity.

ALLOW YOURSELF THE SPACE YOU NEED

Very often you maybe extremely tired and still feel the need to watch it. This wont work out well for you. Your life shouldnt be governed by such things. Allow yourself the space to relax and settle down. Allow your mind to relax and do a short meditation to let go of such thoughts. Live your life with ease and fun.

STOP USING IT AS A NUMBING AGENT

Very often we crave for shows which numb certain deep rooted wounds within us. We maybe hooked to a show based on romantic love because we are single or we maybe hooked to a show which is based on friendships because we might be feeling lonely. Refusing to show up for the issues in your life and getting lost in a world of fiction is not the right thing to do.

START CREATING SOME HYGGE MOMENTS

These include reading a good book while having a cup of coffee, having light hearted talks while sitting in your balcony or enjoying the breeze while on a walk. You can also decorate your room or spend some nice time by putting on some soothing music while making your bed or writing letters to distant relatives. Create some nice and cosy moments which can be as simple as reading or sewing or spending some quiet time relaxing and rejuvenating. You can also buy some new letter pads and start composing your own prayers or inspirational songs. Adopt a short workout or yoga routine. You can take the help of youtube videos for this. Learn some new stuff like reading a book on home decor or bonding with mother earth or manifesting. Join informational and supportive wellness groups on facebook like meditation groups, book reading groups or health and relationship groups. Focus on sharing your problems and participate in group discussions.

OTHER RELAXING THINGS TO DO INSTEAD

You can go on watching your favourite show but not at the expense of your peace of mind. If you feel that the craving is too strong, then take some time out and listen to interviews by health and relationship experts. Some of them are always available for free on youtube. You can watch new episodes of MarieTV, interviews on Bexlife, inspiring talks on flourishinggoddess and podcasts on Brettlarkin. Watch some nice inspiring movies like, ” A wish for christmas”, “A family for christmas,” “The sweetest christmas,” and “the shift.”

Healing our relationship with our parents

LISTENING TO THEM

Our parents have their own opinions and knowlegde. They have had their bittersweet life experiences and while these experiences still await us, listening to their stories or guidance is all right. Yes, we may not agree with them. We all have our own way of living. But paying respect to their knowledge just by listening to them is okay.

DONT BE A SPONGE AND ABSORB IT ALL

Time and again, your parents will shower you with their own insights and life lessons. While some of these may be really helpful, some may just not feel right. Listening to them doesnt mean soaking it all up. You have the right to decide what resonates with you and what doesnt. Do this very wisely. Dont become overloaded with all sorts of lessons and advice.

THE WAY THEY LIVE

Now this is a really important trait you must notice in your parents. How do they live their life? Do they base their decisions on the fear of society? Do they value other’s opinions more than their own happiness? Or do they care very less about such things? How do they deal with criticism? Do they take it and learn from it or do they never allow any guidance to come in?

Making these observations and that too without any judgement helps you in being aware of how they think, their beliefs and if you can rely on their advice in a particular matter.

WITNESS YOUR OWN JUDGEMENTS

Mostly the judgements we have placed on our parents cause us to become biased and often ignore their even helpful suggestions. Its extremely important to release all judgements from our relationships. Judgements are toxic and must be released for us to see the light in all. Be willing to see them in light and for the first time.

THE WAY THEY BEHAVE

Its not that our parents are deliberately behaving the way they do. They just dont know how to be any other way. They are constantly trying to be the best version of themselves. Yes, their behaviour might irk you at times, but then wanting them to change is not the way out. Accept them for who they are and let go of the need for them to be someone else.

LOVE vs ATTACHMENT

When we are attached to our friends or family members, we constantly feel the need to control them. That is what happens mostly between kids and their parents. Both of us are trying to control the other. We are continuously caught in this web of controlling behaviour which masquerades as love and concern.

Love is liberation in itself. Love does not tell you to have the intention of getting and wanting. When you are willing to serve, thats when you truly experience love.

HEALING WITH COMPASSION

If you feel upset by the constant judgements and criticism that your parents place upon you, then you need to understand that their behaviour reflects their own inner child feeling unloved and lonely. Their lack of self love disconnects them from the divine guidance and thid leads them to try to force their decisions upon you.

Bring kindness to all such situations. Cultivate compassion for them and share their suffering.Try to understand that they are going through their own emotional turbulence. Send them love and prayers of healing. If you dont have any words of kindness to say to them, then simply pray for them to embrace light.adult-baby-beautiful-207799

How to make tough decisions?

CONFUSION AT ITS PEAK

When we just cant decide which way to go, when it all seems a blur and when our heart and mind are at a war, in those times we feel the need to have God right in front of us and tell us which way to go. Listening to the whispers of our soul becomes harder as our fear mind burdens us with its logical explanations. Deciding and making a choice becomes a situation we want to run away from.

SHOW UP FOR THE SH*T

God cannot do for us what he cannot do through us. The universe is working on our behalf but we need to show up for all the sh*t*y situations in our lives. Showing up is the only thing we need to do. The rest is for God to take care of.

LET YOUR KARMA DECIDE FOR YOU

When nothing seems clear and our thoughts just cant stop racing, we cannot guess the answer just by thinking about it. Let go of all outcomes. Let go of all your plans. Surrender all your dreams to God. Release and let go. And then do your karma being detached from anything else. Your karma will be your guide and let them decide for you.

IN THE NEAR FUTURE

We all are worried about whats going to happen in the near future. We dont realise how this constant fear of future is destroying our present. The outcome of your deeds and decisions is safe in divine hands. Trying to take control of it is being stupid. Whats not for you to handle should not be touched. In the near future, there maybe happiness or sorrow, success or failure, abundance or lack but no matter how hard you try you will never have any control over it. So release this need to control. Let go of all control and surrender your future to the will of God. May his will be done in all that you do.

SERVICE AS YOUR KARMA

In those situations when you cant decide which way to go, its even harder to decide what to do. In these moments, make your will to serve as the anchor. If you cannot figure out what to do, then choose to serve someone or everyone with love. Choose that job or those tasks where you can willingly serve those you wish to serve. Service is is the pathway to liberation and the gateway to miracles. May love prevail in all that you do. Let there be light.beautiful-beverage-bloom-749562

Looking for love? Read this.

WHY DO I FEEL SO UNLOVED AND AFRAID?

We all wish for someone to bring love into our lives. We really want to meet a friend or partner or a coach who understands us and does not judge us. For every decision we take we are continuously judged by our parents and neighbours. This leaves us feeling upset and uncared for. Sick of these judgements, we long for someone who would be able to see the light in us.

But the truth is that we all judge. Even you judge your parents and your neighbours. All of us are continuously placing judgements upon each other. Each time you expect someone to accept you without judging you, you will be left disappointed.

SERVE WITH LOVE

When we want someone to love us, we always end up feeling hurt and judged. The only way to feel loved is to serve with love. The person whom you truly wish to serve with love is in reality the right one for you. The friendship you wish to serve, the relationship in which you wish to give without expecting, such relations are the bonds of love.

This however does not mean that you allow someone to walk all over you. The moment you feel that you no longer wish to serve this person or you are having a hard time giving your love to this relationship, then its time to stop and think.

THE WILL TO SERVE CANT BE FORCED

We are often told that we should serve our parents, our teachers, our neighbours and all those who have played important roles in our upbringing.

The bittersweet truth is that this will cannot be forced upon you. Many times this will is not cultivated for the people in our family. The reason is not that we dont love them or value them but that this will has its own beautiful nature which is connected to the highest order of love and that is divine love.

EXPECTATIONS ARE THE SOURCE OF ALL PAIN

When we become aware of our will to serve a particular relationship, we need to release all our judgements. Witnessing how you judge people and then slowly bringing in kindness to all situations fills you up with love.

Your will is all thats needed. There is no need to let go of all expectations and judgements all at once. Simply be willing to let go. Pray and surrender. Pick up your magic wand of compassion and share the suffering of others. Dwell in light and soon all you see will be light.

MAKING THE CHOICE FOR LOVE

When it comes to deciding whom do you wish to serve and whether it is your family, your friends, your teachers or your community. The answer it simple. Those who help you to surender your pain and fear help you to connect with the love within you. When you are in alignment with love, you can clearly feel the glow and see the light of love sparkling in their eyes. This is what people see in their soulmates or friends or loved ones.

THE THEORY OF LIBERATION

What makes you feel free and relieved? Which relatioart-background-beautiful-1028707nship is not tied to any bonds other than love? Those relations in which you feel caged and those who are not willing to open their heart to your service will never be benefitted by it.

Serve those  who allow your love to enter their hearts. Serve those who are willing to receive. In this service you will find the ultimate freedom from all judgements and expectations.

 

For all my lonely readers( Welcoming the gift of Love)

No one likes being alone. We all love company and the warmth of relationships. But so often we find ourselves all alone scrolling through the social media or surfing through the internet for no apparent reasons.

How I would love to spend an evening baking cookies while my friends and family settle down for a nice treat of hot coffee and lots of talking. We all love evenings like that but sometimes we find ourselves all alone and lost in silence.

So if you feel alone and long for a beautiful evening in the company of your loved ones, then its a grest thing to unblock the flow of love and dwell in its warm embrace.

UNLOCK YOUR HEART

When we are betrayed by friends, looked down upon by neighbours and insulted by family members, we feel such intense pain that our already wounded heart can no longer bear it.

So in order to protect our tender heart from suffering this pain, we lock it up to keep the pain out. But in doing so we are also keeping the love out.

Open your heart to receive love. Start witnessing your wounds slowly. Pray and surrender. Forgive and send love to those who hurt you. COMPASSION IS THE KEY TO UNLOCK YOUR HEART. Release slowly all that no longer serves you. Bring kindness to all past resentments. Step by step let all resentments go and dissolve them with kindness.

RELEASE ATTACHMENT

Do not try to burden yourself with the sorrows and sufferings of others. That will do you no good. Give them a hug, send them love, be there for them and do your best but for this you need not take their pain into your heart. In this way, you arent helping them in any way. You cannot spread love until you are trapped in pain and fear. Keep your light glowing and serve them with love.

ITS THE LITTLE THINGS THAT MATTER

Call up your family members and have a pleasant talk. Mostly, we often end up having heated arguments with those we love. Do not target topics which might trigger disagreements. Have lengthy and pleasant conversations with them. Make them feel loved and cared for.

ADD A LITTLE CHOCOLATE

In place of the usual evening tea, make some nice hot chocolate and enjoy it with your kids or siblings. Knit  beautiful sweaters for your grandparents. Buy a new shawl for your grandma. Give your mom a nice head massage with her favourite  hair oil. Sit down with your dad and watch an old movie or have a pleasant discussion about painting the house or getting new furniture for the house. Listen to your grandfather as he narrates his life long experiences. Send postcards with little messages of love on them.

THE BOND OF LOVE

Our friends too are the ones we love sharing our experiences with. Write them a letter or an email sharing all your bittersweet experiences with them. Invite them for a nice evening with cakes and cookies. You can also get together and make christmas cards, birthday items or some other handmade stuff.

If you wish to make new friends easily, do read my post on this.

https://healingdreamscom.wordpress.com/2018/05/15/make-new-friends-easily/art-background-beautiful-1028707close-up-colors-cookie-898325

Heal your broken heart with these powerful insights

adorable-books-candle-326581So here I present to you some beautiful lessons and insights from my fiction story “SANTA CLAUS IS COMING TONIGHT” at oyewiki.com

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HEALING SHAME WITH COMPASSION

We feel ashamed and guilty because we are unable to be kind to ourselves. Kindness is the key element of compassion. Being kind and treating yourself with love helps heal all shame and guilt. It helps you in letting go of all that no longer serves you. Through the mirror of kindness you can see the real you who is pure and loving. Stop beating yourself up. It does you no good. Be kind to yourself. Dissolve the harsh and painful situations with love and kindness. You are one with the universe and the moment you become aware of this truth all your fears are taken care of.

UNIVERSE AS THE GENIE

When you cultivate compassion for yourself and others, all you see is light. You will then realise that the universe is working on your behalf. All you need to do is trust and surrender. Let the Universe weave your life with her magic. Stop interfering and allow that is. Send love to all. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. For every act of love you receive abundance and prosperity.

THE POWER OF NOW

This moment is all you have. No one knows if the tomorrow is to come. No one knows what is going to happen. And yet we sabotage this wonderful gifted moment for the fear of tomorrow. We give up on our friendships and we do not care for our loved ones. Instead of giving them our precious time we spend it in building our future. Working on your future goals is not wrong but killing your present happiness and living in misery is not the right way to go.

YOUR OWN GLASS SHOE

We all have our own unique ideas and talents. We are one of a kind. Just as Cindrella’a glass shoe did not fit into someone else’s foot, your special gift is only for you to share. No one can do it better than you. You are being called for it because you were created with the divine intention of fulfilling it.

LOVE KNOWS BEST

This is a message which keeps coming up in the story again and again. Yes, its true. Whenever you need to make a choice, look through the eyes of love. The absence of love leads to misery. Love will tell you what God wants you to know. Tune into the ocean of love within you and listen to the divine whispers of light. Miracles happen to those who believe in them.