“Kindness in words creates confidence, kindness in thinking creates profoundness, kindness in giving creates love.” Lao Tzu
There are certain moments in our lives where we feel the need to stand up for ourselves. People say mean and sarcastic things to us and though we choose to practice compassion and forgiveness by not acting impulsively, we also feel the need to stand up for ourselves and not take this sh*t anymore.
Just as the first line of the above written quote says, kindness in words does create confidence. When we react impulsively, we often end up saying mean and nasty things to others and that does not make us feel any better. But when we choose to speak with kindness, we take a stand for ourselves making sure to send love to the other person.
Today while I was enjoying watching one of my favourite shows on television, my father passed by and said sarcastically that my lifestyle depicts laziness at its peak and what he meant to say was that I should be preparing myself for job interviews instead of spending my time otherwise. Now that would have been a pretty sensible advice had I been doing nothing all these months. But the truth is that after remaining jobless for a couple of months, I completed a two month intense training course which wasnt easy. Sixteen twelve hour night shifts one after the other wasnt something I was used to. The day shifts werent any better. But I survived. And now finally, I have a beautiful job offer and the appointment letter is soon to arrive. So I am spending these days sleeping, doing some sacred rituals, shopping, watching movies and so on.
So when my dad spoke these harsh words, I recalled this amazing quote and thought about the kindest words I could say to myself. This is what I told myself,”Beloved Kairavi, on days you were required to work, you did. On days you were required to stand on toes all day, you did. On days you were required to run up and down four floors of a building, you did. On days you were required to give up on all self care and personal pleasures, you did. And now the time requires you to do nothing at all. You are doing it right. Yes, its true that you can prepare for better job offers but you will know when you will be required to do that. There is no fixed timing for anything. You get to choose and its all right if you choose to focus on something else right now.”
As I spoke these words to myself, I could see that very soon things are going to change for the better. I will have a job and gain financial freedom. That is a moment of celebration, isnt it. And I choose to celebrate by watching my favourite movies and giving myself some sacred solo time. If I were to stand up for myself, I would say the same words to dad. Though I didnt say anything then, I should have told him that things are changing for the better and I can see that. We dont need to insult people to support ourselves. Negative energies and negative words only bring negative outcomes. Positivity attracts more positivity. Kindness attracts confidence. Speak with kindness, speak with confidence.