Namaste wonderful and powerful souls. Thank you for reading, loving and sharing my wok. I do hope to be with you in your good and bad days through my work.
So today I want to write about something that has been on my mind for quite sometime now. So often we all hear famous people and wellness coaches say,”I am living a life beyond my wildest dreams.” And then I look at my own life with a sad face and my thoughts say,”I never get anything I want. Why am I not that fortunate?” And when I look at those people my thoughts say,”Liars! No one can have that good a life.”
So let me address these issues today. None of us are living a perfect life. I repeat “none of us.” Even those who say how happy and blessed they feel do not have everything they want. So are they lying? Well not all but most of them are definitely not lying. They just have an entirely different perception of life. You will be amazed to find out that some of them have exactly the same life as yours and yet they call it a life beyond their wildest dreams.
“But are you even slightly aware of the shit I go through each day?” “Do you know the pain I feel when I attend baby showers when I have no kids of my own?” “How much my heart breaks when I see happy couples all around.” “My grandfather is on death bed and its hard to see him leaving.” I know that these are some of the statements you might be thinking right now. I know it makes you upset and I am no different from you.
But the bitter truth is that maybe we are not living the life of our dreams, the life we had envisioned for ourself but the better truth is that no matter where we are in life, a slight shift in perception can create miracles.
“A miracle is a shift in perception from fear to love.” A course in miracles
So coming to some of my personal experiences. I am mostly a calm and kind person when it comes to my workplace. Although I dislike my job, I choose to practice kindness and this practice keeps me going. But when it comes to my family especially my parents it takes no time for me to loose my cool. In my subconscious mind, there is a list of complaints against them which is stored in its main memory. And with each passing day, more topics are being added to this list. To be honest, I feel that this is really unfair. I believe my family members deserve my kindness the most and yet they are the ones who receive it the least. So what happens when I am with them? Does my kindness bank run out of its currency? Let me explain what happens. The moment I have arguments with them my mind starts off with its ranting,”If only you were married and owned a house of your own, you wouldnt have to put up with this,” “If only I had saved up a little more I would be living in my own house.” So basically its my personal disappointment in my very own self that expresses itself as anger and resentment. More than their words, I am judging my own actions and choices.
Lets see how a shift in perception helps me out. Lets take a nice deep letting go breath and choose to see our lives without judgement. I know that this is definitely not the place where I want to be but despite of all these troubles I can see my life through the eyes of love. Love believes in the concept of oneness, compassion and forgiveness. And it all begins with the self. Self forgiveness and self compassion are the keys to a healthy and fruitful life.
You will be surprised to see how much and how often you judge yourself. These judgements ruin our peace of mind. Lets face it. We all secretly wish to be picture perfect. We all want a life we can brag about and be proud of. We all want a career profile adorned with the glory of our accomplishments, we all want that dream wedding or that dream date, we all want to live in those charming houses and we so long for love and respect from others. The problem doesnt lie in our lives, it lies in our perception. The picture we are carrying in our heads consists of half the things we dont genuinely want and the other half we dont truly need. Drop this picture and you will be able to see how picture perfect your life truly is.
Thats surely easier said than done. Its not easy to let go of that image we hold on so dearly to. I once tried doing so. In my professional life, I was always very clear as to what I want and where I am heading. But then suddenly everything went downhill and I became completely clueless as to what exactly happened. When I hit rock bottom, I realised that life isnt about achieving one thing after the other. It isnt about reaching somewhere. Its about being here, right where you are. Its about the shift from ambition to meaning, the shift from being a slave to our expectations to being free of all judgements. Its all about making a shift right now in this moment.