Resolving inner conflicts in decision making

There is a Native American parable about a grandfather who says, “I feel as if I have two wolves fighting in my heart. One wolf is the vengeful, angry one. The other wolf is the loving, compassionate one.” When asked which wolf will win the fight in his heart, the old man replies, “The one I feed.”  Catherine Ann Jones

In my last post, I wrote about making the right decisions. In this post, I am going to further elaborate on it  The paragraph above explains it all. When we make decisions out of anger, fear and venegeance, they are bound to hurt us. Decisions must be made from a place of compassion, love and kindness.

So, when we have two voices in our heads, how do we know which voice is the angry one and which voice is the loving one. The angry voice feels rushed to make a decision. It is full of resentments over the wrong choices made in the past and wants us to trust the external conditions and follow them. It says that we are poweless and everything about love and faith is delusional.

The compassionate voice never ignores the bitter truth. It does not overlook the troubles. It allows us to forgive ourselves for past mistakes and prevents us from crying over the lost time and money. It asks us to slow down and not make decisions in haste.

The angry voice sees results in terms of external outcomes. It sees how much money you made, how many friends you have, what is your position in the society and so on. It places emphasis on having a golden life on the outside.

The compassionate voice shifts your focus from the world to your own self. It draws your attention towards the lessons you have learnt, happy times you have spent, the work you have put into your progress and the love you have sent to your fellow beings.

The angry voice makes you feel that nothing miraculous can ever happen. It shows you how wrong you were in trusting in the power of God. It says that you cannot get what you want and must struggle your whole life. It places you in the victim mentality.

The compassionate voice allows you to grieve as you are in pain. But at the same time, it does not deny how you are healing through this pain. It makes you aware of the fact that for every closed door, a new gateway opens. It brings you out of the victim mentality into the Goddess mentality reminding you of the smallest of all miracles which have always adult-bed-bedroom-698158adorned your life.

Published by Kairavi Kaul

Namaste my loves. Do join me on my journey to embrace the healing power of nature and love to better our lives and fulfill our dreams.

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