So today as I was helping one of my facebook friends with her troubles, I wrote something I had no idea about. But after sometime, it made so much sense to me. So this is what I wrote,”Sometimes red flags are real warnings whereas sometimes they are just exaggerations of the fear mind.”
This statement is so true when we feel confused about making the right choices. We are unable to recognise if we are really seeing red flags or is it our mind playing tricks with us. Real warnings or true red flags often have enough supportive evidence. For instance you are in a friendship with someone you consider to be your soul sister but she neglects you, never cares to help you in your troubles and above all never calls back on time. These are true red flags and must not be ignored. But if you both disagree on certain things or just have different views or tastes, these are not red flags. Your fear mind exaggerates them to be signs of an unhealthy or not deserving friendship, but these are a few issues which can be easily dealt with.
Real warnings do not make you feel shocked or surprised because deep within your inner wisdom always knows the truth. True red flags are divine messages and are best observed when on the inside you feel more and more miserable about a particular situation. If the path you are on makes you a stronger and better person, then the red flags are merely signs of you getting in your own way.
I took a decision six months ago. Since then I am really confused if I am on the right path or not. I see red flags everywhere. My finances have gone downhill. I lost three lakh indian rupees, all my friends left me and my family is deeply hurt by my decision. So this is how my life looks on the outside. But on the inside, I have become a more loving, caring and forgiving person. I have pulled myself out of depression and started believing in my passion for creativity. So whats happening on the outside may not actually be the red flags. People and situations are not under our control. Anything which makes me a better person is good for me.
So next time if you feel that you are seeing red flags, be very careful in assessing them. Check how you feel on the inside before looking at external conditions. In a relationship, make sure how you feel being with that person and see if being with them has made you more calm or more grumpy. May God bless you.