“Caring for someone includes empowering them with your words.”
A simple statement like “you can do better” can generate mixed feelings within us. It all depends upon the emotions of the person who said it. Someone may have meant,” you are doing well my love. Now its time to shine brighter.” Someone else might have meant,” you arent good enough. You really need to pull up your socks.”
Unsaid emotions do not go unnoticed. Even if someone says just one word it says all thats within their heart. If your parents and teachers say that they care for you but their words disempower you or make you feel that you arent good enough, then its time to realise that this isnt called caring. This is called placing jugements upon you.
Care is free of all judgements. If your words do not empower someone, then you dont really care for them. Anyone who makes you doubt your self worth under the disguise of care and concern must not be trusted.
Those who believe that they know whats best for you are fools. A wise soul knows that we all have an inner guidance system which knows whats best for us. Wise people do not trick you into doubting this inner guidance system, they help you in strengthening it.
“Words are like swords. They can wound and kill either your fear or your self-worth.”
Forgiveness is the magic wand here. Someone’s words can hurt you only till the time you keep holding onto them. The moment you forgive and bless each word they spoke, you are free. This isnt a one time event. Its a moment to moment practice which begins by honoring your wounds.
“Try, try, try till you succeed in bringing more love to the situation.”
You bring in more love by gifting your silence to those who arent wise enough to find meaning in your words. Forgiveness is the best gift you can give to those who have hurt you the most. You give it not for them, but for yourself. Kindness is the door to the infinite source of love within your heart. The moment you start practicing self-kindness, you are able to tune in to the loving frequency within you. At this frequency, lower vibrations cannot reach you and annoying people cannot disrupt your peace.
“Only those who make you feel worthy are worthy of your presence.”.
All those whose deeds or words do nothing but crush your confidence and hopes, do not deserve you. Stars shine both in the darkness as well as during the day. But they are seen only at night. For you to shine and glow like a beautiful star, those around you need to release all their jugements which kill your inner glow. Its only when the sun sets and lets the night settle in, are we able to see the stars. Those who refuse to put their judgements to rest will never let you shine. Judgement is not care. Care is a manifestation of love while judgement is a manifestation of the fear mind. Bless these souls, send them love and release them on their path. Forgive them and set yourself free.