“Some words dont wound a relationship, they kill it.”
Do you ever feel the bitterness of words spoken by someone that still hurts you years later. You choose to forgive them and set yourself free of all resentments not because they were right, but because you wish to release this pain. This is all right when the person of concern is someone you have walked away from or someone whom you shall never see again. But what if its a close friend or family member? Or your spouse or your co-worker? Some words dont just scar a relationship, theh crush it and kill it.
“There is nothing bitter than truth, but there is nothing better than truth.”
Lets face this. There are a lot of people who have no room for us in their heart. They may be there for you physically or they maybe obliged to provide you with financial aid but their words clearly show that they have shut the doors of their hearts right in front of your face. The sooner you accept this, the better. The words they speak will always hurt you and their presence shall make you feel disempowered and worthless.
If you feel that even after forgiveness and cord-cutting, its impossible for you to forget what soneone said and it still haunts you, then according to me its a clear indication that its time to walk away, if not physically move away, then at least distance yourself from them emotionally. I always believe that love is a million times stronger than anger. If you really love someone, no matter how angry you are, your heart will never allow you to say anything which can hurt them to such an extent. So if someone repeatedly says mean things to you and that too those words which always leave you scarred and wounded, it isnt healthy to excuse them saying that they were angry or having a rough day. Not all words hurt that bad. Some are easily forgotten, some take a little time but are soon released with love, some just need a hug and an apology to delete their effect, but there are those words too which, no matter how hard you try, can never be forgotten.
You forgive a person for yourself. You bless each word they said and release them on their path. And in this way, you set yourself free. Thats beautiful. But never ever think that forgiveness means that you put up with a toxic relationship. People who look down upon you and are always disempowering you, do deserve your love in the form of prayers and blessings, but they do not deserve your presence at any cost.