There are certain people in our life who knowingly or unknowingly make us feel worthless in their presence. They either say or do things which hurt us and make us feel ashamed of ourselves. In a fit of anger, we have this burning desire to prove our worth to such people.
Very often they are teachers and family members who burden you with their endless demands. I remember once my parents visited my school for the annual parent-teacher meet. My teacher was delighted and she was full of praises for me. But my parents had something else to say. They expressed their issues with my inability to score well in a particular subject asking the teacher to help me with it. You might not see anything wrong with it. But the message which came across to me wasnt that I can do better. What hit me instead was this,” You arent worthy of any of these praises. Its no big deal. You still arent good enough.”
Now, why I say this is because no matter how much a person is concerned about you, if their words do not uplift you, then its time to stop trusting what they say. Many times children have this urge to prove to their parents how brilliant they are. Similarly, sometimes we too feel the need to prove our worth to all those who made us feel small.
Dr. Wayne Dyer explained in his teachings that you are not what you do, you are not what you have, you are not what other people think of you, you are not separate from all and you are not separate from God. This says it all. The moment you choose to prove your worth to anyone, you are letting their opinions and judgements define you. You are not defined by your accomplishments. You are defined by the one who resides within you. Do you feel that God is worthy of love and respect? Yes? Then so are you because you are in him and he is in you.
Do you worship the God within you? Or do you wait for someone else’s consent? Each time you feel worthless and ashamed, remember that he who is in you need not accomplish anything to prove his worth. You need not care about what the world thinks of you. Most of them do not love the God within them.
When someone feels that you arent worthy of love and success, thats a sign for you to walk away from them. These people are unaware of their own inner glow.
The best gift you can give someone is the gift of forgiveness. Thats the most precious gift. Thats what these people need the most. Here is the affirmation that I use,
“I am grateful for each word you spoke not because its right but because it gives me a chance to send you more love. I forgive you and bless you on your path. I set myself free.”
Never get into any arguments with such people because your words for them are like ultrasonic frequencies which they can never hear. I read a few beautiful quotes on the power of silence which are,
“Speak only if it improves upon the silence.”
“When the people who are closest to you hurt you the most, then its best to remain silent because if your love wasnt enough, do you think your words will matter?”
Always remember that you must never get into the struggle to prove your worth. Thats all nonsense. You are worthy of it all. There is a divine presence within you who knows your true worth. Trust your inner knowing. And here is a beautiful quote on hope,
“Be open to whatever comes next. It maybe the music your heart has been waiting to hear.”