I read a very beautiful quote which says,
Whats the difference between “I like you” and “I love you?” When you like a rose, you pluck it. When you love a rose you water it daily.
That made me wonder about the status of my relationships today. What have I been doing so far? How often I have wanted someone to behave differently. How often I have prayed that my family supports my work. How often I have prayed for my friend to come back to me. But in doing all this, I forgot that this is nothing but me trying to control all the events of my life.
You see that very often all we are doing is trying to pluck the roses from the heavenly garden of love. Our expectations become the scissors which chop off the blooming roses of compassion and then all thats left is regret and disappointment.
So from now on, why not make a choice to water our relationships with love and trust? Yes, our parents may not behave the way we want them to. Neither do we behave the way they want us to. Our friends may not consider us as their priority. Yes, this hurts us. But the burden of expectations is not leading us anywhere.
It once happened with me that I had a lengthy dream about my best friend having a complete transformation in her behaviour, something that I had always longed for. But right there, in that dream itself, I felt my heart breaking into a million pieces.
Trust me my dear, you love your family and friends because of who they are. You will never be pleased if they change or transform. You love someone not for any reason, but because of the love in your heart.
Shed the burden of expectations, stop complaining and start embracing people for who they truly are. God has created them that way. And trust me, he knows his job pretty well. We all have our own flaws, yet we are all flawless because deep within we all the same, we all are love.