I am a really reserved person you see. I really dont like being asked questions about my life. I mean there is always some random neighbour or relative popping up with questions like,” So how is it going?”, “How much do you earn?”,”What are your future plans?” I so hate all this. Why cant everyone just mind their own business?
Now this is the reason I dont like being around such people. You know instead of asking loving questions like,” How is your health?”, “What fruits are you thinking of buying?”, ” How do you keep your house so organised?”, “Why dont you try this new recipe” people are hell bent on asking ridiculous and stupid questions like,” Dont you ever go for a vacation?”, “Dont you think your kid is too fat?”, “How much did your child score in the tests?”, “How much do you save?” and so on.
Some people roam around with a logo glued to them,” Hello, I am here to dig up all information about you. I am an undercover gossipping expert. I will supply this information to my boss which includes everyone I get a chance to gossip with.”
And the worst part of this entire situation is that people live their lives according to these undercover or lets say “underclever” information seekers. Just recently, my Dad walked upto me and said that someone at his workplace asked him about his kids’ career and he had to cook up a story. And he feels justified in doing so.
You know whats going on in his mind,” I really need to be in the good books of all. If this undercover agent finds out about my struggles, he will spread the word. I better not raise his suspicions or be rude to him.”
Great! You dont want to tell the truth, agreed. Why not simply say,” Well I dont want to talk about this as of now.” I mean why do you feel obliged to satisfy anyone’s curiosity and feel ashamed of your own life?
THIS IS SIMPLY A MANIFESTATION OF FEAR AND LOW SELF ESTEEM.
When you feel that you are not good enough or there is something wrong with you, then you resort to all this meaningless stuff. This is not only meaningless but also harmful because you give off dull vibes which make people annoyed.
Yes, my father’s people pleasing and feeling ashamed of us for no particular reason makes me feel pretty angry. But above all, I do feel bad for him too. Spending your entire life feeling afraid and lying is no way to live.
Yes, I too do not like to disclose any personal information. But then I dont cover it all up with sugar coated lies. I simply refuse to answer politely. If someone finds it rude then its upto them.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOU DO NOT NEED ANYONE TO TELL YOU THAT. YOU ALREADY KNOW IT AND NOW, START BELIEVING IT.