Cultivating healthy patterns is a must for all of us to get the power to use our magic wands. We earlier learnt about getting to know what doesnt feel good. And now we shall take one step further to find out what really feels good, enjoyable and healthy.
Now this is also an essential zone to consider. You go about interacting with so many people, be it in person, over the phone or on social media. Not all of these interactions are healthy for us. Some may help us heal while some leave us feeling completely drained.
These include supportive suggestions, sitting together for prayers and rituals, relevant and supportive discussions on social media, greeting loved ones and giving good luck wishes to those who need them. Interacting with someone is healthy if you are discussing problems and supporting each other, not trying to convince or manipulate someone, holding respect for each other’s opinions and not arguing, using social media as a means and place of interacting with like minded people, joining support groups, interacting with friends by exchanging views, greetings and pictures.
These include time consuming, emotionally draining useless discussions, arguing, giving false compliments, manipulating people, reading posts on social media which are of no interest to you, commenting on every single post, chatting with people who give off toxic vibes.
Okay, so I was thinking about gossiping. We all do that and surely love doing that. We feel that it decreases our pain and enables us to share our experiences with others. But everytime you share a negative experience with someone, you are only reminding yourself about it and making those memories even stronger. It prevents you from letting go and healing yourself. It convinces you that you are a victim of circumstances and prevents you from taking full responsibility for your life. Supportive discussions are far better because here your focus is not on the past situation or the person but on your present actions.